Bossy Kids

This should have been posted on Monday but with the massive migraine I had it was hard to concentrate on the word so without further ado.
Ever notice how kids can be bossy. Where do they get this from? I definitely don't want to see the kids being walked over by any means but then there are limits.  We went to McDonald's for dinner Vicky likes to go to the play area and we get to just sit back and let her play. There was another little boy about 1 or so.  Vicky is 3, a month shy of 4 and she loves to play with other kids. They were fine and getting along until the 6 or 7 year old came along.  Vicky gets along with everyone and loves to play so the older boy was following her and her new friend trying to tell them what to do and where to stop and play.  As they were continuing to play and go down the slide the older boy tells the little one to go play on the smaller slide and how he was not big enough to go on the bigger slide.  The mom busy with the other kid and not sure if she heard or not didn't say anything.

The little boy was upset and Vicky did not like to see this either.  She told the older boy that it was not nice to be bossy and that there was enough room for everyone. The older boy commented that the slide was only for kids that were over 4.  So Vicky said "but I am 3 and I am big enough to go on the slide if I want.". She took the little boys hand and proceeded to go up the stair to the slide.  The older boy actually tried to stop them. So she looks at me and was like Mommy am I big enough to go on the slide. I of course proceeded with "Yes, you and your friend can go on the slide. This is a public place and is for every little girl and boy that want to have fun. No one is the boss around here when it comes to who is allowed and who isn't unless it is a safety issue, but then that is why the parents are here for so go and play wherever you and your friend want.  At that point because you can hear the sarcasm in my voice, the mom of the older boy finally said something. She tells him, "If you can't play nice then we are leaving. "
"But he is too small to be on the slide and he is just in the way," he yelled at her.

The father of the little boy was ready to say something and Vicky being the "friend of all kids" says, "There is room for everyone. I will hold his hand so he does not get in the way or get hurt. You have to learn to be patient! (Something we tell her all the time). If you want to play with us then you have to be nice to him." She then proceeds to go up the stairs to the slide again and for the next 10 minutes is playing with the little boy because the older one had a fit.  Oh Well!

One thing we have insisted with Vicky is that she is to be nice to all the other kids until they are mean to her or stand up for the younger and smaller kids. She is not one to stand down or back off. If you do something or say something she doesn't like she will let you know. I wish I had that confidence when I was her age. I was a very shy girl. For anyone that knows me today would have a hard time believing that but I was. Too many kids that try to be bullies or bossy these days.  Can't we all just get along!!

Tooth Fairy

How much is too much for losing a tooth? While some of us growing up remember that a quarter was the biggest prize in the world, today it has changed.  What is a good amount for a tooth? I have found this to be one of those let's see what everyone thinks questions.  I think that if it is the 1st tooth then it should be a nice amount maybe $5 and the other teeth that are destined to fall out, a $1. When the last tooth falls out then I would give more maybe even up to $20. I mean come on now, this is the last baby tooth they will have!! If we start to give our kids more and more each time, will they purposely start trying to take out their teeth?  Do you think this it too much or not enough? I had a brief discussion about this at work and I got mixed amounts.  The highest one was $10 for the 1st tooth and $50 for the last tooth. I've heard others/friends that they have given up to $100.  Now I know each parent is different but what are we teaching our kids at this point?  To expect more and if they do, are they to brag about it?  OK so here is something for you to think about. What would you give your child and why? Also when do you tell you child that there is no tooth fairy? Just my thought for the day. Thank you.