Nosy people

I know some people have different parenting techniques and if you ask my opinion I will tell you. But I would never just come out and tell you how to raise you kid, especially if you are a stranger to me. My daughter is a very well behaved little girl. She understands the meaning of no and will not throw fits in the store. Once and a while she will test me and I give her "The mommy look".  I must have gotten it from my mom since she used to scare the crap out of us with that look.  So we go to the store and there is a kid about 5 yelling at his mom that he wants a toy. Victoria is saying "He is being naughty mommy. He is yelling at him mom and you don't yell at mommies right?"  Well you know that when another kid is saying how naughty another one is, they have to be doing something wrong.  OK back to the kid. "Mom I want it!! Yelling almost at the top of his lungs,  AAAAAAAAAA I hate you!!!!" She proceeds with "Sure hunny whatever you say but you know we are looking for a birthday present for Tony." Now I know she was being patient and started moving away from the toys. He then smacks her in the face and says "go back for the toy!!!"  The mom looked at me because it was unavoidable since I was going towards her on the other side of the isle. I gave her a sympathetic look but thought if that was Vicky I really don't know what my reaction would have been. She proceeded to slap his hand and said don't ever do it again, just wait till we get home." Just as she did that another lady walks by as she slapped the hand of the boy. "Oh my God.  Why are you hitting your child. You are abusing the poor boy. I should report you to the authorities." Of course with the kid crying, it didn't help any. The lady wasn't sure what to say so I kind of stepped in and told the lady to mind her own business. She was not there when the kid had slapped her and if she would like to have a first hand on what that looked like I am pretty sure that the little boy would like to show her if not I could.  Of course the lady looked at me like I had just told her she was mutant from another world or something because she stormed away.  The other lady still kind of embarrassed, said thank you and started to apologize to me for putting me in that awkward situation. I told her there was no need and I just hope that the kid doesn't do it again to her because if she lets him get a way with it now, what will he be capable of later when he is bigger you know.  By now the little boy stopped crying and Vicky proceeded to tell him that he was naughty and had to say sorry to his mom and give her a hug and kiss and never do that again. OK here is my 3 year old telling this 5 year old how to act and say sorry.  The lady said she was cute and thanked her for saying that to her son. I thought she was going to get mad but she didn't and went on her way as I heard the boy asking his mom if she was going to tell his dad what he did. Must have been yes because I heard him cry again.  Now I am not one to hit or anything. I give my daughter time outs. Yes my mom spanked me when I was younger and I know many people like this too. I was never beaten.  We need to distinguish different ways of discipline vs. abuse.  If you raise your voice to your kid some would say it is abuse. I personally think a slap on the hand or a swat on the butt is not abuse.  The people who I read about that hit their kids till they are unconscious or throw them up and let them fall on the floor to see how many times they bounce or the ones that do these awful things to the kids that I can't even mention, are the ones that are abusing. I have read several articles on newborns that are raped several times and then beaten till they don't breath and thrown away like trash or the one that are put in the closet for months to starve. Where are the nosy people then? Why didn't they see the signs there? OK not going to rant but next time some nosy ass biddy comes up and says you are a bad parent or why don't you buy that for the kid, tell them to give you the money if it concerns them that much.  I bet they will turn away and not bother you again.