Bossy Kids

This should have been posted on Monday but with the massive migraine I had it was hard to concentrate on the word so without further ado.
Ever notice how kids can be bossy. Where do they get this from? I definitely don't want to see the kids being walked over by any means but then there are limits.  We went to McDonald's for dinner Vicky likes to go to the play area and we get to just sit back and let her play. There was another little boy about 1 or so.  Vicky is 3, a month shy of 4 and she loves to play with other kids. They were fine and getting along until the 6 or 7 year old came along.  Vicky gets along with everyone and loves to play so the older boy was following her and her new friend trying to tell them what to do and where to stop and play.  As they were continuing to play and go down the slide the older boy tells the little one to go play on the smaller slide and how he was not big enough to go on the bigger slide.  The mom busy with the other kid and not sure if she heard or not didn't say anything.

The little boy was upset and Vicky did not like to see this either.  She told the older boy that it was not nice to be bossy and that there was enough room for everyone. The older boy commented that the slide was only for kids that were over 4.  So Vicky said "but I am 3 and I am big enough to go on the slide if I want.". She took the little boys hand and proceeded to go up the stair to the slide.  The older boy actually tried to stop them. So she looks at me and was like Mommy am I big enough to go on the slide. I of course proceeded with "Yes, you and your friend can go on the slide. This is a public place and is for every little girl and boy that want to have fun. No one is the boss around here when it comes to who is allowed and who isn't unless it is a safety issue, but then that is why the parents are here for so go and play wherever you and your friend want.  At that point because you can hear the sarcasm in my voice, the mom of the older boy finally said something. She tells him, "If you can't play nice then we are leaving. "
"But he is too small to be on the slide and he is just in the way," he yelled at her.

The father of the little boy was ready to say something and Vicky being the "friend of all kids" says, "There is room for everyone. I will hold his hand so he does not get in the way or get hurt. You have to learn to be patient! (Something we tell her all the time). If you want to play with us then you have to be nice to him." She then proceeds to go up the stairs to the slide again and for the next 10 minutes is playing with the little boy because the older one had a fit.  Oh Well!

One thing we have insisted with Vicky is that she is to be nice to all the other kids until they are mean to her or stand up for the younger and smaller kids. She is not one to stand down or back off. If you do something or say something she doesn't like she will let you know. I wish I had that confidence when I was her age. I was a very shy girl. For anyone that knows me today would have a hard time believing that but I was. Too many kids that try to be bullies or bossy these days.  Can't we all just get along!!

Wednesday Blog Hopping!

My first blog hop! Since I am new to this please bear with me as I go along each blog. Here are the links!


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Simply Stacie

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Nosy people

I know some people have different parenting techniques and if you ask my opinion I will tell you. But I would never just come out and tell you how to raise you kid, especially if you are a stranger to me. My daughter is a very well behaved little girl. She understands the meaning of no and will not throw fits in the store. Once and a while she will test me and I give her "The mommy look".  I must have gotten it from my mom since she used to scare the crap out of us with that look.  So we go to the store and there is a kid about 5 yelling at his mom that he wants a toy. Victoria is saying "He is being naughty mommy. He is yelling at him mom and you don't yell at mommies right?"  Well you know that when another kid is saying how naughty another one is, they have to be doing something wrong.  OK back to the kid. "Mom I want it!! Yelling almost at the top of his lungs,  AAAAAAAAAA I hate you!!!!" She proceeds with "Sure hunny whatever you say but you know we are looking for a birthday present for Tony." Now I know she was being patient and started moving away from the toys. He then smacks her in the face and says "go back for the toy!!!"  The mom looked at me because it was unavoidable since I was going towards her on the other side of the isle. I gave her a sympathetic look but thought if that was Vicky I really don't know what my reaction would have been. She proceeded to slap his hand and said don't ever do it again, just wait till we get home." Just as she did that another lady walks by as she slapped the hand of the boy. "Oh my God.  Why are you hitting your child. You are abusing the poor boy. I should report you to the authorities." Of course with the kid crying, it didn't help any. The lady wasn't sure what to say so I kind of stepped in and told the lady to mind her own business. She was not there when the kid had slapped her and if she would like to have a first hand on what that looked like I am pretty sure that the little boy would like to show her if not I could.  Of course the lady looked at me like I had just told her she was mutant from another world or something because she stormed away.  The other lady still kind of embarrassed, said thank you and started to apologize to me for putting me in that awkward situation. I told her there was no need and I just hope that the kid doesn't do it again to her because if she lets him get a way with it now, what will he be capable of later when he is bigger you know.  By now the little boy stopped crying and Vicky proceeded to tell him that he was naughty and had to say sorry to his mom and give her a hug and kiss and never do that again. OK here is my 3 year old telling this 5 year old how to act and say sorry.  The lady said she was cute and thanked her for saying that to her son. I thought she was going to get mad but she didn't and went on her way as I heard the boy asking his mom if she was going to tell his dad what he did. Must have been yes because I heard him cry again.  Now I am not one to hit or anything. I give my daughter time outs. Yes my mom spanked me when I was younger and I know many people like this too. I was never beaten.  We need to distinguish different ways of discipline vs. abuse.  If you raise your voice to your kid some would say it is abuse. I personally think a slap on the hand or a swat on the butt is not abuse.  The people who I read about that hit their kids till they are unconscious or throw them up and let them fall on the floor to see how many times they bounce or the ones that do these awful things to the kids that I can't even mention, are the ones that are abusing. I have read several articles on newborns that are raped several times and then beaten till they don't breath and thrown away like trash or the one that are put in the closet for months to starve. Where are the nosy people then? Why didn't they see the signs there? OK not going to rant but next time some nosy ass biddy comes up and says you are a bad parent or why don't you buy that for the kid, tell them to give you the money if it concerns them that much.  I bet they will turn away and not bother you again.

Tooth Fairy

How much is too much for losing a tooth? While some of us growing up remember that a quarter was the biggest prize in the world, today it has changed.  What is a good amount for a tooth? I have found this to be one of those let's see what everyone thinks questions.  I think that if it is the 1st tooth then it should be a nice amount maybe $5 and the other teeth that are destined to fall out, a $1. When the last tooth falls out then I would give more maybe even up to $20. I mean come on now, this is the last baby tooth they will have!! If we start to give our kids more and more each time, will they purposely start trying to take out their teeth?  Do you think this it too much or not enough? I had a brief discussion about this at work and I got mixed amounts.  The highest one was $10 for the 1st tooth and $50 for the last tooth. I've heard others/friends that they have given up to $100.  Now I know each parent is different but what are we teaching our kids at this point?  To expect more and if they do, are they to brag about it?  OK so here is something for you to think about. What would you give your child and why? Also when do you tell you child that there is no tooth fairy? Just my thought for the day. Thank you. 

School Restrictions Going Too Far

OK, this is the first post on here for me so be patient. I'd like to start my first post with some thoughts and opinions and please feel free to give me your opinions. When the schools put restrictions on kids, when is it too much?  I have a friend in Canada who posted that at her child's school, they cannot bring peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. Now what if you have a picky eater and this is all he/she eats? My husband Rich told me that he heard somewhere that a kid had one of those granola or breakfast bar of some sort for lunch and had it taken away/confiscated because he didn't have the wrapper to show if it had peanuts or not.  He got his entire lunch taken away because it was in with his other stuff .  So this kid went the rest of the day without eating.  Reason being: if a kid that has allergies to peanuts trade lunches and are allergic or touch anything with peanuts, they can go into anaphylactic shock and possibly die. OK maybe a little extreme but can happen. If you know your kid is allergic and is not supposed to eat the stuff, don't you think your kid should know this too? OK fine they can justify that. But the kid went without a lunch! I don't know about you but if the school did that to my kid, I would wonder why they didn't call me to ask if I could bring a replacement lunch or even have them feed my child something from the cafeteria and I pay back later. 

I have another one where her kid cannot wear shoes with laces because they can tie them together and fall. So are they going to get rid of potato sack races?  This is part of learning to balance and dealing with skinned knees. Yes I did this when I was little and I learned my lesson.  One of the others I have heard that they don't allow them to have shoe ties is because other kids don't know how to tie their shoes and make them feel inferior and stupid.  What! If you cannot take the time to teach your child how to tie a shoe then you are failing showing them simple things of life. My little one is three going on four soon and yes she is practicing how to tie her own shoes. She will know this by the time she starts school next year. We need to start paying more attention to the kids and teach them simple things in life. More of those to come.  Well that is all for now but will try to post more opinions and advice from this mommy's point of view. 

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